Stop Putting Other people On A Pedestal!

You know how you meet a new friend or a new boyfriend/girlfriend and you put that person on a pedestal? You know how some church members put their pastors on a pedestal so high, as if he is God on earth? Well, when you do that, you are not helping that person and you are most definitely not helping yourself.

Appreciating or even admiring someone or the person's talent, gifts or attributes is very different from putting him/her on a pedestal. Putting people on a pedestal is actually placing them  above you, which obviously put you beneath them; and that higher spot should only be reserved for God and God ONLY.

The  problem is that your relationship with the person you place on that pedestal will fail because you forget that he/she is human and will/can make mistakes. When you leave people no room to breathe and be themselves by forcing them to be perfect around you, when they do something that you didn't expect or make a mistake,  you will be shocked, deceived and have all kind of bad feelings because you THOUGHT they were "perfect". Truth is, no one is perfect!

What happens when you put people so higher up and think they are better than you? They can only look down on you. Do you really want that? How about you look at the as your equal and just be respectful? That would work much better. Don't get me wrong. Some people ARE better than you in SOME ASPECTS of their lives: money, fame, rich/famous family, successful careers etc... But they also have flaws, problems and even personality issues that you don't know about. Putting people on pedestals make you miss the chance to know the real person because they are always putting a front just for you.

There are those who actually love to be placed on a pedestal. They enjoy all the glory, all the praise and to be seen as perfect just because it all boosts their big ego. Let me clarify that having a high level of self-esteem is very different from having a big ego or being egotistical. **An egotistical person only feels worthy when they compare themselves to others, get praised by others and/or put others down, so they can look big etc... external factors. Someone with high level of/self-esteem get self-worth from self-confidence, attitude etc... internal factors.**

Don't be afraid to be yourself and love yourself a little more. No one is above you for whatever reason you may think. You are as good as anybody else. Just believe in yourself a little bit more and just BE YOURSELF around whoever it is and you'll do fine. You will also give them a chance to show their true self to you. After all, isn't that what you want in a new friend/relationship?

And if you around those who actually demand you to praise them and WANT to be on a pedestal to look down on you, maybe you should rethink that relationship or simply deny them that satisfaction.